Welcome new year

Everybody seems excited with 2009. We went to bed late last night but the kids got up bright and early!!. Carlitos did so so today. I discovered that if he is focus in a project or doing something that requires his full attention he does very well. However if he gets bored...everybody needs protection!! because he gets busy all the wrong ways, and this is the time when he gets very pushy and annoying with his sisters.
The pushiness comes from him trying to get them to do something with him. Something HE likes. The moment they say no then it becomes a fight.

He has a very hard time understanding that people does not HAVE to do what he wants at that moment. When they say no to him he immediately feels offended and accuses them to be "mean" to him. We try to explain this concept all kinds of ways but comes up again as soon as he asks someone to play. I'll talk to his OT and see if she has any ideas for this.

We had a situation were we ask Carlitos to not keep something he build inside the house. The reason for this is because it could be dangerous if it is around when he gets angry. He did not like the idea at all. We discussed it and negotiated. He was getting more and more defiant and eventually he took the object and hid it somewhere in the house so we would not get it out of the house. The offer was to keep it in the garage or a club house he has in the backyard. He refused and put his foot down. At this point we had 2 choices, either leave it alone and wait until he was calm and then negotiate or go for it and let him know we could not be bossed around like that. The tricky part was the escalation or outcome in the confrontation.

I felt very strongly about not letting him get the idea he could treat us like that and get away with it (hiding the object). So, I decided to go in the room and told him: Your choices are not acceptable and now this is your choice. You can either give the object to me and keep it in the garage or club or, I will look for it, find it and you loose it forever. He took 1 minute and then got it and took it to the backyard. I'm glad he was able to regroup good like that.

He played in the computer with his sister for a while. Worked on his garage project and read before going to sleep. He had a good day.